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Grief among other things

My brother Chris passed last October. It was sudden and a shock to our whole family. I won’t get into what happened out of respect but it was traumatic. Having not seen him in a couple years all I felt was guilt, regret and loss. We spoke several times over the years but because we lived in different countries, it was hard to get together. I wanted to make it to his wedding and he wanted to make it to mine. But life always got in the way.

The guilt and regret I felt sent me through a bout of depression. I drank way to much and distanced myself rather than reach out to those who were going through this pain with me. We have a sibling chat on Facebook messenger which allows us to communicate as a group. It’s mostly used for quips and information sharing, nothing to serious. I know that a lot of my siblings hurt harder than me seeing as they were closer to Chris than I was but I never reached out to talk to them one on one. Why is that? What am I scared of? It would help me heal I think if I listened to them and talked about everything. I’ve made a promise to myself to do better at this. It’s still a work in progress though.

Menopause

On top of that my body starting changing. Maybe it was due to stress, I don’t know for sure but my moods were getting worse. I tried to not show it on the outside but I felt like I was dying. I found a lump on my breast and just starting getting sick all the time. I’m not one to be sick more than once a year so this was all very real and scary to me.

I went to the doctor and they couldn’t find anything wrong. The lump was treated with anti-inflammatoires and antibiotics and eventually went away. I finally got a family doctor and I told him about everything. He did some blood work and found out I’m menopausal! I had never heard of anyone this young going through menopause. I spoke with my mom and it’s apparently a thing in my family.

Stress

I’ve always had high stress, I work things up in my mind and over analyze. I think this is also partially hereditary too. My mom has always been a high stress person, so maybe I got that from her too. Sometimes it’s not a bad thing because it puts a fire under my butt when stuff needs to get done. As I get older though I think it’s directly linked to my health.

All of this being said, I am working to always do better and although I keep failing I won’t give up. The goals I have set for myself are there, I just really gotta stop doing the same old things to deal with pain, and stress etc. I need to communicate more with my family and friends. I need to stop worrying about things that aren’t a priority in my life.

I’m writing all this while away on a mini 4 day vacation. I will talk about this city and what to do here in my next post. Thanks for listening.

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Day 9 The plan

Luke and I had a cheat day on the weekend, bad idea because we both had reactions to the things we ate.  I’m pretty sure I react to mushrooms.  We are back on track now and although I gained weight due to the cheat, I’m down again this morning.

This week the introductory foods are bread, a new protein and new vegetable. We are gonna try tomatoes because we both love them but apparently they are very reactionary to many people.  As for the protein I think we will try beef or fish, haven’t decided yet. Salmon although full of nutrients is apparently very reactionary to many people, as are eggs.  The beauty of this testing system is things that you may think are good for you (and they are for many people) May react differently in your body.

Salmon for instance, some people will react to salmon being cooked but not in the form of sashimi.  When you cook protein it changes the molecules which can do different things to the digestive system.  Same as eggs, you may be fine with an over easy egg but react to it being boiled. It’s all quite interesting.

My goal this week is to drop another 4 pounds so I’ll keep going through the program (no cheats) and post again this weekend.  Happy hump day everyone.

Tested pork for dinner
Tested zucchini
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Day 4 of the plan

I gotta tell you that the amount of food prep is more than expected. And you make a lot of it too! Here we are on day four with a ton of leftovers. So we decided instead of making new food for today we will just eat what we’ve made already. The only new introductory food today is cheese!

Please, don’t let me react to cheese! Please, don’t let me react to cheese!

So far I am down 4.8 pounds, and Luke 5.2 and in only three days. Another change for me is that the rash I’ve had on my elbows for nearly all my adult life has gone away. It’s amazing to find out that gut health really does control many things.

Dinner day two introduced rice and dinner last night introduced chicken! I didn’t react to either! I had my first coffee in three days this morning. I could feel the caffeine through my veins right away. I did feel fatigued the last few days but the book says that’s fairly normal because your body is detoxing. Today my energy levels seem good. I’ll post in a couple of days with more progress!

Dinner day two