In this post I will step away from discussing the deeper things, to talk about the mini trip I took to San Diego. I love being able to re-calibrate and recharge by taking short inexpensive trips. Luke had to go down for a conference, so I thought I’d tag along. The hotel room is covered so all I had to pay for was flight and food.
San Diego as Ron Burgundy clearly states “is the greatest city of mankind, discovered by the Germans in 1904” haha! To be fair though, it is a pretty cool city. Since Luke had to work, I spent day one at Balboa park. This is a must see place, the architecture alone is spectacular. There are quite a few museums in the area including the art museum, museum of man, natural history museum, botanical gardens, and Spanish village art center (see pictures below).
Day two was a chill day! I sat outside facing the harbor and watched boats go by and read. Oh I forgot to mention the restaurant day one which was the Blind Burro! Amazing authentic Mexican food and margaritas! I was in heaven.
We ate at Blue Point the second night and had the seafood tower and lobster rolls. All of which was delicious. For getting around you can take an Uber anywhere for a good price. Our favorite mode of transportation however was the electric scooters. (Click here for a short video of my first ride). They are set up like Uber or Lyft in the way of being able to find one via GPS, and unlock it with a scan of the QR code. It was only one dollar to start and 15 cents/minute to continue. With this mode of transportation we were able to go through the Gaslamp district, all the way up to Little Italy. What an incredible way to get around with no emissions, no traffic jams and at your fingertips!
The restaurant night three was Civico1845. The servers were very knowledgeable and pleasant. I had the ravioli all’aragosta, which was so delicious. They also have an amazing vegan menu. The picture of the wine above was from this spot. So many lovely things to see and do in San Diego. The people are nice and the restaurants are pretty swell. I would highly recommend if you’ve never been to check it out! Thank you for listening!
This is going to be brutally honest and perhaps a bit shocking, but I feel I should share some of my history. I talked about moving across the country in my last post and want to expand on that.
During my 20’s I went through several pretty bad relationships. I met Justin and we had a weird relationship, he was never nice to me even in the beginning. I still struggle with why I was ever with him. We had got pregnant and I had an abortion. Although he had agreed to this, after the fact he was really angry with me. He began physically abusing me, that was a scary time for me. I tried to get away from him but he always stalked me. He once broke into my car and took my steering wheel so I couldn’t go anywhere. One night he hurt me pretty bad. I was hospitalized from the wounds and trauma I suffered. He was arrested and went to jail for this, I was finally free of him.
I met Dan in 2006, he was charming and attractive and we moved in together within 3 months of knowing each other. Everyone that met him liked him, including my family. I spent 5 years of my life with this man. We had friends and went on trips but there was a dark side to him. He would get black out drunk and hit me and then not remember doing it the next day and begging for me to forgive him. He also cheated on me a lot.
The first time it happened I was broken. He begged for forgiveness and I gave it to him. It happened again and again and I always forgave him. I always had an excuse for him. He had me in this trap, I felt mentally drained all the time. I wasn’t taking care of myself and I didn’t see a way out.
He cheated on me a final time and I just said that is it and decided to move from Kingston Ontario to Calgary. I knew if I stayed he would perhaps lure me back and I couldn’t have it. A lot of my family lived in Calgary, and my brother offered me a place to stay.
What I learned from these past relationships is that I matter. I started caring about myself again. I actually stopped looking for relationships and focused on my career when I met my husband. Luke is polar opposite to anyone I’ve ever dated. He is all around good, he’s patient, loving and loyal. We’ve been together nearly 5 years now and I couldn’t be happier.