I just finished reading the book “The Subtle Art of not giving a F*ck” by Mark Manson. It was an eye opener for me. I have read many “improve yourself” type books but nothing has got me to think differently until now. He talks about how to retrain your mind to stop thinking you need to be extraordinary in order to lead a good, grounded, happy life. He says “improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better.”
It’s all about perspective. For example if you had a dream to be a famous artist but didn’t want the hassle of going to art school and learning and growing as an artist, maybe being a famous artist isn’t actually what you should do. He says to take that list of wants you have in your life and then figure out how you would get there and then think if you want to make the trip.
At one point a couple years ago, I actually quit my career as a sales manager, a field I’d been working in for over a decade to paint. I did a couple of art shows and sold a few paintings but then nothing. I had to start making money but I was hell bent on not going back into the corporate world so I ending up starting a cleaning business. That lasted a couple months, because I got depressed since I was alone all the time.
I then got into a position managing a Starbucks in Calgary. I wanted to continue focusing on art and thought a coffee shop environment would be the perfect blend of making a living and encourage my creativity. That was a error in judgement as well. I was busier then I had been in years, and getting up at 4am everyday to sling coffee was – not – inspiring! All that to say is that I know art and creativity is very important to me. The path of being a starving artist is not the path I want, which means I will have to work a real job and create when I can. I’ve become more comfortable with this fact. Still learning and excited about it. Until next time….